"LIFE ETC."

Do you often find yourself in a situation like this?  You try to convince a friend or your parents that you need something very much. You can't make them understand how important it is. If you face this problem as much as I do, you might want to ask yourself this question: Why is it so hard for people to understand each other's situations? There must be a point we're all missing. People don't live in such very different worlds, after all. There must be a way for us to make others understand what we think or what we need.

We can start by trying to put ourselves in the other person's situation. We need to look at ourselves from the outside to see what others see. Can you do that? Imagine that the only things you know about yourself are what you say about yourself. This is how it feels to be a friend or parent of yours.

Now, do you think that you express yourself enough? Is it easy for others to see what kind of a world you live in? Do you give enough clues to others? Or do you hide yourself behind "white lies"?

Most of the time, we think it's not a big deal to tell a white lie that doesn't harm others and makes our own life easier. But have you ever noticed that those "white" lies are not that white? They probably make life more difficult rather than easier. Let me give you an example: Assume that you got a low grade in an exam (this example is very familiar to me). Your parents can't understand why their "clever son" couldn't do better. You'd like not to tell them the grade, but you're most probably going to have to repeat the year. So, they'll know it sooner or later. Why do you think they don't understand how hard school is? Why do they expect grades that you can only dream about? It's very simple: You've never given them enough clues to know the truth. You've let them see you the way they want to.

Once upon a time, you believed that you had the best friends, the strongest dad and the most intelligent mom on the world. When you found out the truth, you were disappointed. But it made you understand it's normal for a person to make mistakes.
Now, for some unknown reason, you want others to think that you're perfect. It's time to let them be disappointed and give you the right to make mistakes.