 "Greet it with
laughter
What fate sends to you
If clouds, then right after
Are the skies clear and blue.
It's all in a lifetime -
Joy, sorrow and pain;
There never is a rainbow till after the rain."
The author of this
little poem is unknown, but what he/she said totally describes each of
our lives. There are bad days and good days, and at the end we find a
way to survive.
Some days, just waking
up is a big issue. You don't want to get out of bed and don't want to do
anything except lie in that corner. Sometimes this can last for a week,
a month, even years. Is there a way to cope with this negative attitude
to life?
I don't know. But maybe
this little poem can guide us in taking a step toward having a more
positive life. Every day, each of us encounters problems, sometimes big
and very difficult problems and occasionally very big and insoluble
problems. And at the end of the day, another day begins, so we have two
possibilities: taking the problem with us to the next day, or accepting
it and trying to learn to live with it.
I have experienced this
several times in my life: if you take the problem with you, it starts to
grow and becomes heavier. You begin to hurt people who care about you
and others who may want to care. Then, you start not even caring about
yourself. And this can lead to very harmful results.
I have also experienced
the second way of dealing with a problem, which is at the beginning more
difficult than just denying it and lashing out at other people. But the
end result is better. You start by accepting the fact that you are
having a problem that other people all around the world also have.
Then, you need to try to
find a solution. If you're getting poor grades, you could ask your
friends for help or simply work harder. If you miss someone you've lost,
try to focus on the good memories and hope that they're happy wherever
they are. If you miss someone who's far away, you can give them a call
or send a card.
And then, try to find
another way to keep your mind busy. Go to a movie, take the day off,
talk with your friends or even try a kind of cake you've never eaten
before. At the end of the day, you'll be much more comfortable in facing
your problem. The rain will stop, and then you'll see the rainbow appear,
making everything look brighter. Your problem may not go away, but as
the days pass, it will be mixed in with the rest of your life.
Have a week full of
rainbows.
Sıla Türkü Kural (EE/III)
turku@ug.bilkent.edu.tr
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