I was actually going to write about something totally different this week, about photos and how they can be fun memories yet very dangerous as well, but I just got a sad phone call from my friend. The father of a very close friend of mine passed away a few days ago. I was talking to her on the phone and it seemed so weird,
I mean I know we are all going to have to see our loved ones pass away one day or another, but I never imaged that this day was creeping up. I had always thought that I would be much older, somehow more “ready” for such sad events, but I learnt once again that there really is no “time” for such things. We have to be ready. Ready for what you may ask, if I were to lose (God forbid) someone I loved dearly, or anyone
I know for that matter, I would be terribly sad if they passed away without them knowing that I truly loved them. It’s actually very simple, we live life as if we are never going to die, that’s not a bad way to live life but it closes our eyes to the inevitable - death. If someone passed away today I would feel very guilty because I never told that person how much I loved him/her. Why I never told her/him beats me when it’s so simple, but its usually the simplest things in life that we complicate and never do as well...
After hanging up the phone, I called my parents. Yes I had spoken to them several times that day, but we had just spoken of “ordinary” things. Why did
I never tell them how much I actually loved them, what if what happened to my friend happened to me or you.. would you feel regret for not saying how much you loved someone enough?..To be honest I felt shame, personally, I realized how sometimes I wasted time on the stupidest things, getting worried or spending time with people that actually didn’t matter, when you think about it how many of us don’t?...
Life is so short and so unpredictable, I’m sorry to have to say this, but today
I realized once again that death does not go by age, or fairness.. it comes without a reason, leaving the ones behind to only curse it and cry. It’s never too late to be with the ones you love, come on give them a ring now - what do you have to lose? Nothing!
I don’t want to feel the regret so many before me have felt, I hope you don’t either. Saying what you feel is not a weakness, it doesn’t make you less human or strong, just the opposite. Please take a minute each day and spend it with the people who actually are worth it.
Sibel Muradoðlu (ELIT/IV)
